I highly recommend reading this article from start to finish:
http://www.6mmbr.com/catalog/item/1433308/977259.htm. This equipment ... and it sounds like you have some of it already ... will help you determine how far it is from the bottom of the case to the point where your bullet's ogive just touches the rifling. It's the easiest method I've found for finding my starting point. From my starting point, I proceed inward .005", .010" etc. Also, every time you measure with the O.A.L. tool,
make sure the Modified Case is screwed on tight. It can tend to unscrew a bit as you remove the tool from your rifle's chamber.
If the Modified Case is not fully seated on the O.A.L. Gauge, measurements will vary.
There are lots of methods that will tell you where you are ... for example a square or rectangle mark on the bullet ... that have been used very successfully, but I believe these tools will help you get started a little easier. The wooden dowel is really helpful in giving you a feel where the rifling is located. After you've mastered these steps, I believe jackie's suggestions on seating bullets will take you where you want to go. He's always helped me. Art