I sympathize with you. I just purchased an inexpensive Bushnell spotting scope. The scope itself isn't too bad, but the free tripod included with it is worthless.
I happend to have -- fortunately -- a small camera tripod designed for tabletops. I bought it years ago. I'm sure it was not cheap. It is very good quality. I have been using that camera tripod with the spotting scope and have had good luck. Much more stable.
I wish I could give you the details and the brand, but I have had this item for years and just don't know. You might take a look in a good camera shop, and be prepared to write a pretty good-sized check.
I think in this arena, you pretty much get what you pay for.
Let us know how this comes out . . . . .