Bent??
I don't think your reciever would be "bent", it does take a little more to actually bend a reciever that you would think. Keep in mind, I am not talking about placing it in deflection, which is what a bad bedding job will do when the screws are tightened.
As has been stated, Remingtons are notorious when it comes to actually being able to bolt on a set of readilly available mounts and have them line up properly. Or the scope sit in alignment with the barrel.
Remember, if you have to lap the rings, you are removing metal. Since the rings were machined to fit the scopes body, it stands to reason that tey won't fit it very well after lapping. As a machinist, that has always puzzled me. Sure, they might be better aligned, but they will also be too big.
If the rings are any where within reason, the best bet is to just bolt it all together. Scopes tubes are really quite flimsy, the vast majority made from aluminum. The do tend to conform to what ever you place them in. It might screw with the optics a little, but considerring that thousands of scopes are mounted every year with no more attention to detail than simply tightenning all the screws, it shows how forgiving much of this can be.
As for action screws, if you REALLY want to see how good your bedding or pillars are, go to the range, fire a three shot group, paying attention to the exact placement on the target. Then, loosen the rear screw a little, and shoot another group. See if the group changes any appreciable amount. If it does, then you are indeed bending the action with the screws as they pull it down into any irregular bedding.........jackie