About your load, Gene Beggs who owns a tunnel) once wrote that for the typical 6PPC, that accurate powder charge nodes are about 1.2 grains apart. If we look at where you are currently getting your best accuracy, and where you mentioned your accuracy is worse, as you increase your charge, I think that you may not be going up far enough. I have seen this mistake made over and over, with both powder charge, and bullet seating depth. I have made it myself. If you have a properly fitting FL die, going up in charge weight should not be a problem, although I would still recommend that you do an incremental pressure test. Something else that has not been suggested is that you have someone else shoot your rifle, to see if he has the same problem. One thing about your wobbly wooden bench, in many cases plywood gussets or rectangular shear panels can be screwed and glued to a frame, and have a major effect on its stability. This should be easy, and inexpensive. Keep us informed as to your progress.