What you're finding out...
The main reason that loading close to the lands often improves groups is that it uniforms the initial combustion pattern by negating (to a degree) the effect of
varied case neck tension. In other words, if the case necks are not completely equal in how tight they hold the bullet, one cartridge to the next, by loading against the lands you can mitigate this effect and often improve accuracy.
But if your case necks are uniform, loading against the lands isn't necessary. There is absolutely no such thing as a particular bullet design "liking" such and such a jump to the lands, or "liking" to be loaded against the lands. While some bullet makers may say this, get them on the phone and have them explain the science behind what they say. You'll either get an earful of blather, or no answer at all. The distance to the lands thing has simply been a repeated mantra over the years, and most folks--even seasoned competitors--don't really know why they do it.
One other thing that loading close to the lands can help mitigate is the effect of runout, in the event that you have a large degree of runout on your loaded cartridges. Cartridges with a high degree of runout will fair better in many instances if they don't have any jump to the lands, as this will help prevent them from engraving off axis and going down the bore with the tip spiraling. A close seating to the lands may help such bullets align with the bore more gently instead of having them batter into the lands harshly, as they would in the case of a long jump to the lands.
If your handloads are straight (little to no runout) and your case necks are uniform, you don't need to load against the lands to enjoy great performance.
Dan