AMEN about dumping the Lee "lock rings". Buy some RCBS lock rings that can be easily adjusted, but have a locking screw to keep them in place. Get some 7/8" ID O rings from the local hardware store in the plumbing department, install one under the lock ring on the sizing and seating die. Does the same thing and works better than the Lee setup IMHO.
There are two ways to set a full length die for your rifle. Either get a Stoney Point, now Hornady, headspace measuring set that fastens to a dial (or digital) caliper's blades, OR remove the firing pin from the rifle's bolt (assuming it's a bolt action) so that you can feel the bolt closing. With the first (best) follow the instructions and set head to shoulder measurement after sizing to ~0.003" less than the fired measurement. With the stripped bolt method adjust the sizing die so that the bolt closes with a slight amount of "feel" when it closes. Sizing the case more than that only shortens case life.
When you adjust the sizing die using the stripped bolt method turn it down until it touches the shellholder at the top of the press rams travel, back it off half to 3/4 turn, then lube and size a fired case. The case will probably not fit back into the rifle's chamber. Turn the die in ~1/8 turn, resize the case (a bit more lube on the case might be needed), and see if it fits into the chamber. Continue this operation until the cases fit into the chamber with the amount of feel that suits you. Depending on how sensitive your fingers are, you should be able to feel the seating cams on the bolt just engage. That's what you want. It's not necessary to tighten the lock screw on the lock ring until you've reached the final adjustment. After the die is adjusted and the lockring setscrew tightened, I make a mark on the lockring and line it up with a mark on the press - a Sharpie or sharp pointed paint pen in a light color works well for this.
Unless you have lube dents in the case shoulders severe marks on the shoulders are likely from oversizing the cases. FL sizing dies usually leave small shiny marks on the case in my experience anyway.