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07-06-2010, 08:10 PM
About 2 1/2 years ago Mom had a home site prepared on the land that my brother and I purchased outside of Cloudcroft, NM. She purchased a new Solitaire double-wide, and had it moved out to the property. Before she made the purchase, she wanted to be very cautious about the air quality of the home because she had birds. She was assured by Solitaire that they use only certified materials that are free from toxic materials. Three weeks after she moved in, one of her birds and her dog died on the same day. The people from solitaire assured her that her pets died because of the high altitude.

Soon after mom became sick. She had problems breathing, had nose bleeds, and horrible headaches. It was determined that the air should be tested. The test results showed formaldahyde levels at six times above the maximum standard levels allowed. Mom was told that she would develope cancer within 2 to 3 years because of the high levels of formaldahyde, and the lenghty exposure time of 3 months.

Mom was diagnosed with lymphoma about 3 months ago. After a few weeks of chemo, Mom became very week. The chemo had attacked her nervous system. Her condition progressed very rapidly. She has been in the hospital for 5 weeks now. She is too week for any chemo. It is feared the the cancer has spread to the brain, but she is also too weak for a brain biopsy. She is on life support now. She will open her eyes at times, and it seems that she knows me, but I can't say for sure. She can not respond in any way.

Please keep Mom in your prayers. Her name is Judy, and I have posted a picture below.

I really appreciate it, Michael

Dave Coots
07-06-2010, 08:55 PM
Sorry to hear of your Mom's problems. May the Lord be with her.


Jim Erickson
07-06-2010, 09:14 PM
What a shame for that to happen...we have your mother and family in our prayers.


Jim Erickson

07-06-2010, 10:32 PM
May God be with her, and with you and yours Michael.


Bill Wynne
07-06-2010, 10:56 PM
Michael, The prayers and thoughts of many shooters are with you and your mom and your family tonight.

07-06-2010, 11:07 PM
Prayers sent............may the Lord be with her and your family.

07-06-2010, 11:08 PM
My prayers are with your mom and family.

07-07-2010, 12:25 AM

My God.... I'm truly sorry for your Mothers condition...Hart breaking.

Prayor groups, we will keep Judy close in our thoughts and prayors.

May the Good Lord Bless the Turner Family in these most difficult times.


07-07-2010, 01:59 AM
Judy's name and info will be lifted up in my accountability group tomorrow. I have lost two aunts and my dad to cancer in the past 3 months. Nothing good about. Hold together as a family and support each other. I am sure everyone is hurting. My prayers are with all of you. God bless, Tim

07-07-2010, 11:20 AM
Best wishes to you and your family through this ordeal.


Doug Kennedy
07-07-2010, 08:30 PM
Very sorry to hear about your mom. My prayers are with your Mom and your family.

Butch Lambert
07-07-2010, 10:01 PM
Our prayers go out to you and your Mom. My mother was diagnosed with Lymphoma 4 years ago. She has been through chemo , radiation, and experimental drugs. At 87 she said her old body couldn't take anymore. Her cancer had spread. She said no more treatments. For some reason at 90 she is cancer free. We know who is looking over her and us. Keep praying.

07-08-2010, 09:34 PM
I want everyone to know how much I appreciate the prayers. I went to see Mom yesterday. Just as soon as I pulled into the hospital parking lot, my cell rang. They told me Mom was being transferred. By the time they opened up late hour visitation, Mom was already moved. I drove to the new location and filled everyone in on her condition and history. By the time this was all done at around 10:30 PM, I was too tired to drive all the way back to Cloudcroft, so I got a room. By accident, I left the phone in the car. Around 4:00 AM, Mom went into respiratory and cardiac arrest. I felt really bad when I went out to the car this morning to find 15 missed calls, and have felt really bad about it all day. Mom pulled through, and was transferred back to ICU and put on life support. It's really hard to just let her go. I keep thinking maybe they will find something to give us hope.


07-08-2010, 11:08 PM
Important email comming your way about Solitare.


07-08-2010, 11:52 PM

I'll keep your Mom in my prayers. Godspeed.

Jim S
07-09-2010, 09:00 AM
God bless your Family Michael.

07-10-2010, 12:38 AM
Mom's heart rate shot up to 180 bpm. The only way they were able to bring it down was to shock her. Tomorrow my brother and I will have to go ahead and tell them DNR. I'm pretty certain at this point that Mom will go home to the Lord tomorrow. It's been tough the last few months, with a lot of hard decisions to make. I just always assumed that my parents would be around into their 70's or 80's, but dad passed away at 60, and Mom's only 68. I can only rest in the fact that Mom and Dad both knew Christ as their Lord and Savior. They were also very active in leading others to Christ.


07-10-2010, 02:05 AM
Michael, I am praying for you and your brother as well as your mom. It is a hard thing to do to let her go, but find comfort in the promise for those that put their faith in Christ. You posting the message of above is a witness to your faith. It sounds like your parents were wonderful people. But losing a parent is always hard. God bless you and your family. tim

07-10-2010, 09:13 PM
M, the words you wrote about your mom knowing Christ as her savior makes hearing this terrible news a little easier. As a Christian, it is so hard to hear of those that are about to meet the Lord and do not know him as savior. What a blessing it is to know that your mom is about to make the most glorious trip a believer can make. May God bless and keep you in your time of pain and grief.

Michael Turner

Mom's heart rate shot up to 180 bpm. The only way they were able to bring it down was to shock her. Tomorrow my brother and I will have to go ahead and tell them DNR. I'm pretty certain at this point that Mom will go home to the Lord tomorrow. It's been tough the last few months, with a lot of hard decisions to make. I just always assumed that my parents would be around into their 70's or 80's, but dad passed away at 60, and Mom's only 68. I can only rest in the fact that Mom and Dad both knew Christ as their Lord and Savior. They were also very active in leading others to Christ.


07-10-2010, 11:05 PM
Michael, I just found this thread. Man, I'm really sorry to learn of what your Mom, you, and family are going through. Here's praying for everyone's inner strength to deal with this most difficult of times. I hope you see again in better days....

Scott Smallwood

Bob T.
07-12-2010, 02:54 AM
All our prayers are with your mom and family.

Bob T.

07-13-2010, 12:06 AM
We were told that the only thing keeping Mom alive was the respirator. Mom continues to hold her own. I'm not certain how to feel about things at this point. Mom can't continue to live in her current state. She is still being fed through her feeding tube, and is receiving supplemental oxygen. If she continues to stay the same, I'm not certain what we should do. She is basically in a coma with no sign of improving. I just waiting on the Lord to either take her home or heal her. Her choice would be to go home to her Lord and Savior. If any of you have been through a similar situation, please give me some insight on how to make the right decision.


07-13-2010, 12:31 AM
The fact that your facing these tough decisions makes me assume that your mom didn't have a living will with the DNR instructions clearly spelled out. This spring when we lost my dad from cancer, he gave clear instructions not to take him to the hospital at the end and that he wanted to pass at home. Hospice was wonderful to help that transition occur to dad's wishes. You are facing a much different situation with your mom in the hospital. The thing I would say is that the family must be in agreement when it is time to stop life support. Some family members may not accept the reality of your mom's state. That's ok. At this point you are probably keeping her in this world for your family's comfort and not your mom's. I don't mean for that to be harsh as it sounds so. This life on earth is but a blink of eye for the life to come. None of our experiences can tell you and your family when its time. It is when your family is ready.... not your mom at this point. I pray for you and your family to be ready to allow your mom to pass from this world into a much grander place we can not phantom.

Make God grant you and your mom peace in this step in life's journey. Blessing, Tim

07-13-2010, 12:35 AM

My mother was in a nursing home for 7 long hard years. She had made us promise her that we would not keep her alive artifically.....because she too knew the Lord and knew that her destiny was secure. She had a stoke on a Saturday and could not eat or drink due to choking. She passed the following Wed evening with all but one of her family at her side singing hymns that she loved.

My heart hurts for you, and I cannot tell you what to do, but if you know your mom well, and it sounds like you do, do the best for her.

My prayers go for you and your family.

Michael Turner

wolf gray
07-13-2010, 03:30 PM
I am sorry to hear about your Mom. I think Tim made a lot of sense in his post. I went through a similar situation with my parents about a 1 1/2 years ago. We kids were wanting to do everything we could to save Dad but nothing was working. I talked to Dad's doctors and they said they knew we wanted to keep Dad around but it was not in Dad's best interests. My siblings felt the same way I did, but after I talked to the doctors I had a different point of view. I arranged a conference call with my siblings and the doctors and we discussed the situation. After the call we all agreed that the doctors were right and we let Dad go. I feel that we did the right thing. We lost my Mom 6 months later, so that was not a good year.
Best to you and I will keep your Mom in my prayers.
Dan Batko

07-13-2010, 04:38 PM
Michael, as already mentioned, I don't think anyone can tell you and your family what you need to do. That is something y'all need to decide. Just know you have many people praying for your mom and your family. My wife and I have a devotion every nite. Tonite is my turn and just know that I will be praying for the Lord to bring peace and comfort to you and your family at this time. God Bless.......


Pat B.
07-13-2010, 06:42 PM
We will be praying for your Mom and your family... Very sorry you and she are having to go through this..

Pat Byrne

07-13-2010, 10:02 PM
Michael, Like others who have responded, my family went through this last thanksgiving too. Our father was in a similar situation and we held out while the respirator keep him going until other systems started failing and forced the issue. In this case, it was dialysis vs hospice. We all knew what he would have wanted but no one wants to make a quick decision that leads to later regret. The fact that he had no legal guidance put the moral burden on us but in the end we made the right choice and we were all there when he departed. No one can tell you the "right" thing to do, not even the doctors but rest assured that you're among friends who can relate to your situation and pray not only for your Mom but for you the family too. This has got to be one of the most difficult things that life can require you to face. I'm sure that at the end of the day, you'll do the right thing.

Hang in there man..... Scott

07-15-2010, 02:13 PM
Mom passed away a little before 8:00 PM yesterday evening. I want to thank all of you for the prayers and support you've shown. Even though Mom will be greatly missed, I have no doubt that she's in a better place right now with the Lord, and finally reunited with Dad. Mom always said that she had a win-win situation. She was prepared for whatever the Lord had for her.

I'm thankful for the kind of people we have here on Benchrest. It seems that for the most part there are two kinds of people. Those who believe in God, love our country, own guns, and stand up for our constitutional rights, and then there are those people who don't. I don't just compete in this sport for the sake of goals or competition. I love the sport because the people that are truly great people, and are there to support one another during good times and tough times.


Al Nyhus
07-16-2010, 12:44 AM
Michael: May good memories fill your heart and ease your pain. -Al

Old Gunner
07-18-2010, 10:52 PM
I just returned from the funeral for the mother of a close friend , she was 73 taken swiftly by a stroke. Last year my friend, who is a chaplin, preached at my own mother's funeral.
Mom was 93 , the longer they are with us the tougher it is to say goodbye.

A bit late but my best wishes go out to you and yours in dealing with your loss. It takes time but peace comes.